Memories and Loss

Poems and stories that have touched me.

This very touching poem I first read on the Scottish Deerhound Forum as a tribute and condolence for someone suffering from the loss of their much loved dog, putting so eloquently in words the feelings we can all relate to when we have to say good bye too soon.

FROM FRIEND TO FRIEND

You’re giving me a special gift,

So sorrowfully endowed,

And through these last few cherished days,

Your courage makes me proud.

But really, love is knowing

When your best friend is in pain,

And understanding earthly acts

Will only be in vain.

So looking deep into your eyes,

Beyond, into your soul,

I see in you the magic, that will

Once more make me whole.

The strength that you possess,

Is why I look to you today,

To do this thing that must be done,

For it’s the only way.

That strength is why I’ve followed you,

And chose you as my friend,

And why I’ve loved you all these years…

My partner ’til the end.

Please, understand just what this gift,

You’re giving, means to me,

It gives me back the strength I’ve lost,

And all my dignity.

You take a stand on my behalf,

For that is what friends do.

And know that what you do is right,

For I believe it too.

So one last time, I breathe your scent,

And through your hand I feel,

The courage that’s within you,

To now grant me this appeal.

Cut the leash that holds me here,

Dear friend, and let me run,

Once more a strong and steady dog,

My pain and struggle done.

And don’t despair my passing,

For I won’t be far away,

Forever here, within your heart,

And memory I’ll stay.

I’ll be there watching over you,

Your ever faithful friend,

And in your memories I’ll run,

…a young dog once again.

(c) Karen Clouston

I received this ‘A pet’s ten commandments’ in an email, I have searched & not found an author and see it is featured on a lot of other sites and blogs. I think it bears repeating.

A PET’S TEN COMMANDMENTS

1. My life is likely to last 10-15 years. Any separation from you is likely to be painful.

2. Give me time to understand what you want of me

3. Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being.

4. Don’t be angry with me for long and don’t lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainment, but I have only you.

5. Talk to me. Even if I don’t understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me.

6. Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget it.

7. Before you hit me, before you strike me, remember that I could hurt you, and yet, I choose not to bite you.

8. Before you scold me for being lazy or uncooperative, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I’m not getting the right food, I have been in the sun too long, or my heart might be getting old or weak.

9. Please take care of me when I grow old. You too, will grow old.

10. On the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can’t bear to watch. Don’t make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there, because I love you so.

A Living Love

If you ever love an animal, there are three days in your life you will always remember . . .

The first is a day, blessed with happiness, when you bring home your young new friend. You may have spent weeks deciding on a breed. You may have asked numerous opinions of many vets, or done long research in finding a breeder. Or, perhaps in a fleeting moment, you may have just chosen that silly looking mutt in a shelter — simply because something in its eyes reached your heart. But when you bring that chosen pet home, and watch it explore, and claim its special place in your hall or front room — and when you feel it brush against you for the first time — it instills a feeling of pure love you will carry with you through the many years to come.

The second day will occur eight or nine or ten years later. It will be a day like any other. Routine and unexceptional. But, for a surprising instant, you will look at your longtime friend and see age where you once saw youth. You will see slow deliberate steps where you once saw energy. And you will see sleep when you once saw activity. So you will begin to adjust your friend’s diet — and you may add a pill or two to her food. And you may feel a growing fear deep within yourself, which bodes of a coming emptiness. And you will feel this uneasy feeling, on and off, until the third day finally arrives.

And on this day — if your friend and whatever higher being you believe in have not decided for you, then you will be faced with making a decision of your own — on behalf of your lifelong friend, and with the guidance of your own deepest Spirit. But whichever way your friend eventually leaves you — you will feel as long as a single star in the dark night.

If you are wise, you will let the tears flow as freely and as often as they must. And if you are typical, you will find that not many in your circle of family or friends will be able to understand your grief, or comfort you.

But if you are true to the love of the pet you cherished through the many joy-filled years, you may find that a soul — a bit smaller in size than your own — seems to walk with you, at times, during the lonely days to come.

And at moments when you least expect anything out of the ordinary to happen, you may feel something brush against your leg — very very lightly.

And looking down at the place where your dear, perhaps dearest, friend used to lie — you will remember those three significant days. The memory will most likely to be painful, and leave an ache in your heart–

As time passes the ache will come and go as if it has a life of its own. You will both reject it and it, and it may confuse you. If you reject it, it will depress you. If you embrace it, it will deepen you. Either way, it will still be an ache.

But there will be, I assure you, a fourth day when — along with the memory of your pet — and piercing through the heaviness in your heart — there will come a realization that belongs only to you. It will be as unique and strong as our relationship with each animal we have loved, and lost. This realization takes the form of a Living Love — like the heavenly scent of a rose that remains after the petals have wilted, this Love will remain and grow — and be there for us to remember. It is a love we have earned. It is the legacy our pets leave us when they go. And it is a gift we may keep with us as long as we live. It is a Love which is ours alone. And until we ourselves leave, perhaps to join our Beloved Pets — it is a Love we will always possess.

~~by Martin Scot Kosins

All Souls fly to heaven

I found wings to fly
No bars, no cages, just sky
now my wagging tail speaks for me
Now I can glide across the sky
my long legs and paws will try
In dreams, like a star I’m flying
little bird I’m not, but I am shining
I’m learning to fly
please don’t let go, my hopes are high

rescued & grateful, little soul am I…

http://www.carasbrits.de/DogsDHTrans.htm

The Butterfly Girl

Like a butterfly,

She has cast off

Her earth-bound body,

She is ever young.

She is at free at last to follow

The shifting patterns of light.

Free to wild wind.

Free to find daylight.

By John Michael Finn

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2 Responses to “Memories and Loss”

  1. Andy Barrett Says:

    Thank you for finding us…..I hope Angus is happy now…No more pain, he can run and play with his Mum and Dad…Flora and Angus.

    Will put a link to your Blog on our site….

    Angus deerhound’s Dad

  2. Cathy DiPietro Says:

    Mac, May your feet fly the meadows of the sky. Our hearts ache but your memory is with us forever. Now, go play Glen Scotia MacMillan d’Lux


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